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Discipline and Positive Reinforcement

By: Dr. Noel Swanson..

Discipline. Many people view it as a punishment system but that doesn't have to be the case. Often times, a reward system can work wonders in establishing child discipline. Another thing you might have noticed when attempting to establish child discipline is how one technique doesn't work.

First of all it is important to remove the derogatory connotations attached to the word ‘discipline’. Many people associate punishment with discipline, which isn’t and shouldn’t be the case. More often than not, a reward system works wonders in establishing child discipline. Indeed, as parents, you should make sure that things don’t come to such a pass that punishment is required. Another thing that you need to know as parents is that children are individuals in their own right. No two kids are alike; they need to be treated individually. There is no such guarantee that the method that worked with one child will work with another, too. You have to be as inventive as your children to develop a rapport with them so that they listen to you, and they do what they think will please you.

Throwing child discipline out the window and forgetting about it, isn't an option. As parents, finding an alternative that works is a must. If punishment tactics haven't worked for you, try a reward system. Positive children's behavior is encouraged by positive reinforcement and this is the type of encouragement you want to give your child. Not to mention, it saves time on the yelling.

Here are some parenting tips for establishing a reward system:

1. Sit down, just the parents, and communicate. Set up a list of child behavior actions and rewards. For example, cleaning up the bedroom without having to be reminded means an extra hour of TV on the weekend.

* Once you have clarity on behavior actions and rewards, you should explain the system to the children. You’ll be surprised that even very small children respond to rewards. It’s a good idea to actively engage the older children in this type of routine change; it will ensure better implementation and the system will run smoothly and many child behavior problems will be avoided. It will give them a sense of achievement and participation in the household decision making process.

3. You can make use of a chart that will help you keep a record and follow through. It serves as a visual reinforcement also.

Following these three steps will help you a great deal in putting up an effective and rewarding system in your home. By rewarding good child behavior, you set a positive foundation for self-esteem. It is the best way to accomplish child discipline tasks.

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Dr. Noel Swanson regularly writes for Yes Parenting website and also has a free newsletter with heaps of expert parenting advice.
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