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Why Abused Women Stay With Their Violent Partners?

How do you leave someone you don’t honestly want to leave in the first place?

We hear stories about women beaten by their husbands, women raped, threatened or abused by their partners. And if these things are indeed happening to some women, you might wonder, why don’t these women leave their partners?

There a lot of factors why abused women can’t just leave their partners. One of the reasons is fear. Most abused women feel fear for their future and safety. Most cases of female homicides are caused when the abused partner tries to leave home. Battered women with kids fear economic instability. Most abused women are financially dependent on their partners.

Another factor is an abuser’s promise of changing and becoming a better person. After violent fights with their partners, most abuser would ask for forgiveness and promise never to do it again. Promises of reform and thoughts like, “He’s actually a good person but he’s just stressed out lately”, or “It was my fault. I provoked him” can be one of those reasons why battered females opt to stay in an obviously unhealthy relationship.

Then there is the victim’s lack of resources. Seclusion is one primary component of abuse therefore most abuse women usually lack a support structure. Most friendships and family ties have been marred and ruined, so abused women are left financially and psychologically reliant on their violent partners.

Abused women usually go through attacks of guilt yet refute the horror and anger that they feel inside them. They feel that it was their own behavior which provoked their partners to be violent. Some would feel guilt in leaving their abusive partners because women feel they need to be more considerate and patient with their partners’ behavior. Abused women tend to think that their partners might not be able to survive alone.

Another factor is the guilt of a failed marriage. Most women feel that they are responsible for the success or failure of their relationships. Abused women feel that leaving their partners would mean that they are failures.

Lastly there’s that LOVE for their partners. The willingness to stay trapped within an unhealthy relationship just for that love. Most battered females tend to see the good in their partners. When love and cruelty is jumbled, abused women find it hard to see abuse and battery for what they are.

It’s hard to leave when you really don’t want to leave, right? It is demoralizing to be hurt by someone we love but domestic violence is not an isolated case. There are lots of women out there who are physically, sexually, psychologically, mentally and emotionally abused each day by their partners. Moreover, domestic violence can be stopped. Abused and battered women can actually get out of a rotten relationship.

Abused women need all the support and emotional stability they can get from other people. Women shelters, community groups, and women’s advocacy groups can aid abused females leave their battered relationships and start new and happier lives again.